I'm GLAD I'm not 16 anymore...
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kaellite...
Things I'd Tell My 16-Year-Old-Self
Though, I probably wouldn't listen, because I'd be too freaked out by seeing myself at THIS age!!
1. Listen to your gut instincts about people. They always turned out to be right, and everytime you didn't listen to them, you regretted it.
2. Don't go out with Roger. He's 18, he's got his whole life lined up the way he wants it, and he's already thinking marriage and kids. You're only 16, and you are so not ready for that. He's going to do his best to sabotage you and make it so you are so dependent on him that you can't function without him. Unfortunately, you're so stubborn and wilful that this is an exercise in futility for him, and much frustration and puzzlement for you. Avoid altogether.
3. You're not perfect. You're never going to be perfect. Stop overstudying. Two hours is fine. Stop over-practicing. One hour in the morning on the piano, and one hour in the afternoon is fine. Six or more hours of music practice a day is a bit obsessive, dear.
4. Not eating is not going to make you invisible. It's not going to keep him from noticing you. It's not going to stop anything. It's going to nearly kill you. Please eat.
5. Nick is going to be your best friend for the next three years. Yes, I know you already have a best friend, but Nick is going to be your best male friend, you're going to love him, and he's going to love you, and you're going to help each other through all kinds of shit. This is going to happen, I just want you to appreciate it, and him. He's a treasure, hon, hang on tight to him. And yes, he's gay, but you already kind of know that so don't worry about it. Just love him and know that when you try the dating thing? It isn't going to work out, but it won't destroy your friendship. It'll just make it stronger, something you can both laugh heartily about years down the road.
6. You are never, ever going to finish the Simarillion, so just put it down.
7. When Delfino asks you to accompany him on piano for his trumpet solo and ensemble piece? Run away. Far, far away. Because he's not serious. He'll hand you this very complicated Bach obligato sort of piece that you've never heard, and will be fascinated by, but he can't manage it at all, and is using it as an excuse to get in a practice room alone with a locked door with you. On second thought, go ahead and do it. Because the look of shock on his face when you hit him square on the nose with that left hook is STILL one of my favorite memories from high school.
8. Yes, the minister at your church is just as creepy as you secretly suspect him of being, and you were absolutely right to never, ever come within arm's reach of the man. *still shudders at the memory* Avoid.
9. Your niece and nephew drive you nuts right now, but they are going to be a couple of pretty fun little people in a few years, and they'll be even more interesting when they grow up. Don't worry that you fuss too much right now. When they grow up, they'll tell you it was one of their favorite things about you. It made them feel loved and safe.
10. You're a muscular little thing, very sturdy and strong in spite of being so thin, and I know that embarrasses you. Don't be. You're an athlete, and you're very good at what you do. Stop listening to the catty girls who make noises at how unfeminine you are, and take a good look at them instead. Are they really the people you want to listen to? No. When you are all in your forties, they'll be panting as they totter into the mall on their high heels to shop, while you stride by, swinging your kids up over your shoulders, and still good to go long after they've dropped from exhaustion. Being athletic is a GOOD thing, trust me! More stamina when it counts!
11. When Gilbert says, "Let's go down the Shlitterbahn one more time," say no. And walk away.
12. Laugh more. Don't take anything too seriously. And remember, you're still just a kid. Enjoy it.
kaellite... Things I'd Tell My 16-Year-Old-Self
Though, I probably wouldn't listen, because I'd be too freaked out by seeing myself at THIS age!!
1. Listen to your gut instincts about people. They always turned out to be right, and everytime you didn't listen to them, you regretted it.
2. Don't go out with Roger. He's 18, he's got his whole life lined up the way he wants it, and he's already thinking marriage and kids. You're only 16, and you are so not ready for that. He's going to do his best to sabotage you and make it so you are so dependent on him that you can't function without him. Unfortunately, you're so stubborn and wilful that this is an exercise in futility for him, and much frustration and puzzlement for you. Avoid altogether.
3. You're not perfect. You're never going to be perfect. Stop overstudying. Two hours is fine. Stop over-practicing. One hour in the morning on the piano, and one hour in the afternoon is fine. Six or more hours of music practice a day is a bit obsessive, dear.
4. Not eating is not going to make you invisible. It's not going to keep him from noticing you. It's not going to stop anything. It's going to nearly kill you. Please eat.
5. Nick is going to be your best friend for the next three years. Yes, I know you already have a best friend, but Nick is going to be your best male friend, you're going to love him, and he's going to love you, and you're going to help each other through all kinds of shit. This is going to happen, I just want you to appreciate it, and him. He's a treasure, hon, hang on tight to him. And yes, he's gay, but you already kind of know that so don't worry about it. Just love him and know that when you try the dating thing? It isn't going to work out, but it won't destroy your friendship. It'll just make it stronger, something you can both laugh heartily about years down the road.
6. You are never, ever going to finish the Simarillion, so just put it down.
7. When Delfino asks you to accompany him on piano for his trumpet solo and ensemble piece? Run away. Far, far away. Because he's not serious. He'll hand you this very complicated Bach obligato sort of piece that you've never heard, and will be fascinated by, but he can't manage it at all, and is using it as an excuse to get in a practice room alone with a locked door with you. On second thought, go ahead and do it. Because the look of shock on his face when you hit him square on the nose with that left hook is STILL one of my favorite memories from high school.
8. Yes, the minister at your church is just as creepy as you secretly suspect him of being, and you were absolutely right to never, ever come within arm's reach of the man. *still shudders at the memory* Avoid.
9. Your niece and nephew drive you nuts right now, but they are going to be a couple of pretty fun little people in a few years, and they'll be even more interesting when they grow up. Don't worry that you fuss too much right now. When they grow up, they'll tell you it was one of their favorite things about you. It made them feel loved and safe.
10. You're a muscular little thing, very sturdy and strong in spite of being so thin, and I know that embarrasses you. Don't be. You're an athlete, and you're very good at what you do. Stop listening to the catty girls who make noises at how unfeminine you are, and take a good look at them instead. Are they really the people you want to listen to? No. When you are all in your forties, they'll be panting as they totter into the mall on their high heels to shop, while you stride by, swinging your kids up over your shoulders, and still good to go long after they've dropped from exhaustion. Being athletic is a GOOD thing, trust me! More stamina when it counts!
11. When Gilbert says, "Let's go down the Shlitterbahn one more time," say no. And walk away.
12. Laugh more. Don't take anything too seriously. And remember, you're still just a kid. Enjoy it.
